Alas, I have lost my Mate

[Sloop John B]

Thanks guys for your good support.

The kids are trying to teach me how to cook and clean house. I mean Jeez.

A little advice: Arrange it so you're out of the picture before the help leaves. Or, I donno, maybe take cooking classes (not me!). One can always get a maid.

Naturally I'm on the low mentally but I feel like I've been physically beaten up in a boxing match. Weird.

I'm intelligent enough to know I'll climb out of this, it's just strange experiencing it first hand, that is, rather than reading about it.

Anyway, thanks again for the good advice and all your sympathy. I'm still hanging in.

Sloop

[rfehon]

Your story brought a tear to my eyes. I had to go and show your post to my wife. I was deeply moved and had to share how I love her.

Thank you, John, for sharing your loss with us. My condolences.

Bob

[aya16]

rfehon sounds like there might be another kid in this world in 9 months...... sloop you hang in there two things shouldnt happen in our lives and thats out live our mates and our kids. Men seem to not be as prepared for this as women, although its still very hard on the women.

anything I can do let me know
Mike

[beene]

One can always get a maid.

I think that's a great idea.

Nice cute little outfit, duster brush in hand.... I can think of worse things to have to allow into my house.

No harm in that at all Sloop.

I am sure Peggy would have approved.

She would like that someone was helping to take care of you and things around the house. Taking care of a home is a lot to ask from just one person.

G

[Joe 26M Time Warp]

Sloop,
My Dad is now 86. None of us ever thought he would outlive my Mom, she passed suddenly one July night back in 1996. She ran the house, cooking, cleaning, paying the bills - Dad had it pretty easy back then.

But he's still going strong. He learned to cook for himself, and he's still living in that same house.

In spite of the incredible amounts of people we pack into our little house for Christmas & Thanksgiving, he's had a number of parties that dwarf those spectaculars without any doubt.

Don't ever doubt how much we all treasure hearing of your life experiences because we all know, there's a little Sloop John B in every one of us. You and your Peggy have shared with us, and even in this sad time we learn, and we thank you.

God Bless you and all you hold dear,
Joe & Lily

[Greg]

Sloop

Sorry to hear of Peggy’s passing. You and your family have been in my thoughts and prayers. You mentioned sailing with your brother and the kids helping you learn to cook and clean the house, maybe you can do a Mac overnighter with the kids.

I’ve found that on every multiple day trip on the Mac, whether with my wife, the wife and kids or with friends, the relationship is enhanced in a very unique way. Once the hook is down you have the time and the elimination of outside interference to talk, and I mean really talk, about things you may not otherwise talk about. Memories, life, philosophy, goals, mistakes, theories, dreams are things that few people get the time to talk about in today’s busy schedules. It’s time to continue creating memories.

When you’re on your own little self contained island, it’s the best therapy you can get.

Greg

[Nickyd]

Sloop

I am terribly sorry about your loss. I have always enjoyed your posts.
May God bless you.

Nick

[Tom Root]

Sloop

What can I say other than I send my condolances, I have known you only by your on line persona over the past several years, and all I can say is I too feel the loss as well!

Every day is a gift to each of us, and I don't come on here with my problems, but have had many things recently, stand in the way of us sailing for the past few years, although we still have the boat.

Keep looking towards the future is all I can say, that is what we try and do, get out and do things to keep yourself on even keel as well! As said by others here, sharing her loss with us is special, and she will live here in our hearts as well!

Take care my friend!

[Dimitri-2000X-Tampa]

John,

Sorry for the late response as I don't make it on the board as much as I used to. Although we've never met, I've known you for many years and am very saddened by your loss my friend.

Everyone is different as far as what they like to keep around. Some people like to keep the physical parts of a memory (ie. like your Mac) and others would rather not. If you decide to keep sailing, it is not that hard to singlehand, just takes a bit more planning and ingenuity, as well as a few good tools, like an autopilot, lines led aft, spinnaker sock, etc. I have a family of 7 on board, yet I singlehand everything.

Regards and condolences, Dimitri

[ChrisP and Pam]

Sloop,
This is Chris of ChrisP and Pam. I just read your announcement as well as everyone's reply. I want to echo their thoughts and offer my total sympathy. I don't know how you might handle the grieving but I hope you continue to sail. It might be the most therapuetic thing a person can do at a time like this. I also look forward to reading your posts on sailing and on life.
One thing I can say is that you can be proud that you were there for Peggy. I can only hope that I never leave Pam alone in the world. We're both in our mid forties and we met late in life. And I do cherish our time together. Thanks for the advice. I remember one time we were on the Gulf and she was absolutely terrified.... poor woman. But that story is for another time. My sincere condolences to you and your family.
Chris